This is Audrey, a writer and photographer who blogs over at Frassy.
I first discovered Frassy early on in 2015 and immediately wished I’d found her years earlier. The reason I religiously read Audrey’s blog every week is that she reminds me, every time, that I don’t need anyone’s permission to be anything.
I admire her transparency and honesty so much, and I’m so happy to be able to share this interview with you!
Audrey, if you can narrow it down to just one, what has been your favourite thing to date about the blogging community?
I am not as active now as I used to be in the blogging community. I am lucky enough to have most of my favourite bloggers as real-life friends, so our internet friendships transgressed into something more profound. Most of my closest friends, who I have now known for years I met via my blog, and for that I am infinitely grateful.
They are by the far the biggest gift the internet has given me and rather than ‘liking’ each other’s instagram photos, we might call one another at 1am after a terrible date. I love that, I love seeing my friends produce this beautiful content online but to also know their very inner lives.
It is this duality that actually inspired me to be as honest as I professionally could be in my own content, so I guess, the friendships born from the community are undeniably my favourite.
What is your book about?
I am actually writing 2 books; the first is called ‘An Ordinary Thing’ which is essentially a series of short stories each with a focus on an ordinary thing. I have written about all kinds of seemingly mundane things; a bench I had sex on in Paris, a coffee mug with the word ‘jumbo’ bizarrely painted on it to an old silk tank that I’ve worn braless for about a decade now. I have always been fascinated with the life that exists within the things we use or walk pass or collect in our homes.
So I used some of my own experiences tied to things, embellishing them to the point of fiction to spin a collection of stories. I think even the most boring objects can have an incredible tale if we look close enough.
As for my second book attempt, the title is the twisting of a REM song; ‘Shiny Sad People’, another collection of short stories based loosely on some of the sad but fascinating characters I have met. Again these are embellished and entirely fictitious. I think sadness can be beautiful but I am struggling to explore this in the way I know I could. We will see. I am not sure most people want to read a collection of sad stories though.
Who is currently your favourite author?
Oh this is so hard, books are my bloodline and by far my biggest source of inspiration. But I have just finished Marina Keegan’s ‘The Opposite of Loneliness’, which blew me away in the way great books do.
Her way with words is one I hope to achieve in my own writing. She is a gem of a woman, and as I finished her book I felt so sad she died so young. She would have won awards of all kinds, I am sure of it.
What do you think is the best way to introduce more discipline into one’s life?
Slowly! So many people make grand promises to themselves, a long list that eventually suffocates them. I think it is best to absolutely prioritise and make one thing a goal. If you have just one tiny thing to get done every single day, it is a lot easier to tackle.
We can’t do it all and modern society so often seems to shout at us for not achieving everything. I think this is sad. Instead we should think carefully about where we want discipline in our lives and be selective as to where to channel this determination. Usually this can only be one or two, at most three things.